Roanoke Church of Christ

Month: September 2015

“NEW LIFE” BULLEIN – VOL. 27, NO. 25&26 – THE NIGHT THE LIGHTS WENT OUT IN ROANOKE

“NEW LIFE” BULLEIN-Sept. 20, 2015
VOL. 27, NO. 25&26 THE NIGHT THE LIGHTS WENT OUT IN ROANOKE
On Friday, September 4, at 5:00 P.M. a violent thunderstorm passed through Roanoke, dropping quarter to pea-sized hail across the Roanoke valley. Some parts lost power. Among them was the home of Richard and Connie Crites. Richard had just arrived home on Wednesday. He’d been in a nursing facility after fighting cancer for three years. Thursday was a good day, but on Friday it was hard to tell if he was awake. At 10:25 that night, he took his last breath. Connie, Kirsten and I were with him.
It is almost symbolic that the lights went out the night Richard died. Richard was a light to all who knew him, and for all of us who loved him, a light in our life went out that night.
Rich came from a typical Church of Christ background. You went to church because that’s what Church of Christ people do. You knew what you were supposed to think and do. If you showed up and had your ticket punched, checked off the list of dos and don’t, you went to heaven. He was faithful to this concept for much of his life.
When his first wife decided marriage was not for her, it crushed Rich. No one in his family had suffered a divorce. It was a very low point in his life. However, even though his first wife moved away, Rich still did things for her parents until they died.
In the mystery that is life, he and Connie found each other here at church and began a life together that all who knew them recognized was meant to be.
Even if Rich hadn’t seen it yet, others saw his potential as a servant of God. Not long after his marriage to Connie, he began to think about relationship with God, rather than “checking off the list.”
Those who knew him from the time he arrived in Roanoke, right out of college, to teach Biology at Virginia Western Community College, all saw the change in him. What they saw was a man of integrity, love, service and grace. One can only wonder what he might have been had he not had the experiences that led him and Connie to become the inspiration to others that they were. Both having previous marriages, they became the source of strength to those who needed guidance in starting marriage over.
Rich cherished what marriage to Connie and his place in her daughters lives gave him. The compassion and goodness he’d learned as a little boy, made him a trusted husband, father, friend and teacher.
For a short time in the early 90s while we served as two of three elders, I noticed something special about Rich. He had his ego under control. For a short time there was just the two of us serving as elders. If someone came to me to talk about something, and not him, he was fine with that. The same went for me. If we felt that a confidence wouldn’t be broken, we’d ask each other for help. So often egos get involved in leadership which defeats the process. However, even after he and I resigned and the direction of the church became the function of the steering committee, as well as the congregation, he was still seen as the leader. In fact, more folks turned to him than me, for which I was grateful. You can’t imagine the trivia that occupies some folks mind.
Rich was a reluctant leader. If you know your Bible, most significant prophets and leaders did not believe they were. That’s one of the wonderful things about transformation. It just happens. Of course, in most cases there is a foundation laid. Rich would talk about how his mother was the spiritual leader in their home. He talked about hearing her sing hymns as she worked around the house. This, along with his father’s work ethic laid the foundation for Richard’s life.
Every minister’s family has people in each congregation they serve who, in some way, becomes a place of refuge. These are people who draw you into their lives and make yours better. I could list all of their names from the first church to the present, but none was better than Rich and Connie. Their home, as well as several others, became a place where the church family was often invited. Beyond those occasions were those which involved Jo and me. Invitations to dinner theaters, the Lime Kiln Theater, Mount Rogers and White Top, just to mention a few.
There was also the times it would just be Rich and I. Sometimes up on the Blue Ridge Parkway or at Arcadia, where he would introduce me to all kinds of growing specimens. But mostly we’d talk.
He was a guy from the farm. I was a guy from the city who had left the farm at five years old. But we both never forgot the smell of corn, clover, livestock and the distinct smell of leaves and corn stocks in the fall.
For a number of years before he was no longer able, he was the church treasurer, On Mondays after he retired from teaching, he would come by the office and pay bills. If there were none, we talked about anything and everything that came to our minds.
Beyond the church, countless of his students have praised his personal concern and help in achieving their educational goals. Among those he influenced were the folks at Famous Anthony’s. Restaurant. Even though he hadn’t been able to eat there for some time, at least two of the women wait staff came to the viewing to pay their respects.
Around his neighborhood, Rich was like State Farm, he was there; with a snow shovel, a chain saw, whatever it took as a good neighbor. The world is a little dimmer without him.
At his memorial service he had the last word, and this is what he said: “ I want to thank all of you for allowing me to come into your life. It has been a privilege! As your friend, mentor, teacher, parent husband or family member, I wish you well. I have lived a full life. For each of you, I would urge that you immerse yourself in the love of God and His Son. There is nothing more Valuable in this world. Walking with Them is a wonderful trip.”
Amen.
Keith
CONCERNS: Melisha Scruggs’ cousin, Autumn, is being treated for cancer. Mary Smith spent a few days in the hospital in order to regulate her heart medicine. Roger Fisher’s brother, Woody is still under nursing care. A friend of Betty Shepherd is recovering from an assault. Melanie Gentry is showing some improvement after being in the hospital in Birmingham, Ala. Remember Joni Beach’s mother, Betty, as well as her father and aunt, Pat Voss, and also her niece, Jamie Cole. Jim Hunter is about the same. Also Wayne Phlegar, Leena Bolin’s aunt, Lee Nicklas, and Bill Albert’s son, David. Former member, Betty Shepherd’s condition has stabilized for the time being. Betty Foy’s sister, Sue Huels is very ill. Continue to pray for Sandra Anderson, Gil Shepherd, Deana McRoy, Stephanie Rigney, Jenni Cullum, her friend, Sean, and Tim Elder.

OUR DAILY BREAD: SEPT. 21-26
Monday: II Thess. 1:2-12
Tuesday: Matthew 1:18-25
Wednesday: John 2:1-11
Thursday: I Thess 1:2-10
Friday: II Timothy 2:2-13
Saturday: Isaiah 40:1-11
OUR DAILY BREAD: SEPT. 28-OCT.3
Monday: Matthew 2:1-12
Tuesday Matthew 2:13-33
Wednesday: Genesis 31:36-50
Thursday: Acts 9:19-31
Friday: Psalm 122:1-9
Saturday: Psalm 140:1-13

SUPER SUNDAY
Today (September 20) is Super Sunday. Several of our folks are out of town, but be sure to stay after the service and enjoy the fellowship meal.
THE BAR B QUE
We have rescheduled the Bar B Que for the last Saturday of this month, which is this coming Saturday. If you were unable to sign up for the first date, don’t worry, there will be plenty of chicken, pork and beef. However, if you did sign up and will not be able to attend, let Keith know.
This time together will honor Rich Crites, who loved the Bar B Que’s and enjoyed preparing the cooked meat for all of us to eat. This will be a time when we can all be together, since it was not feasible to
do so after his memorial service.
Since it is a little later in the month we may not have to worry about the heat and can enjoy the approaching fall weather.
STEERING COMMITTEE MEETING
We need to have a brief steering committee meeting after the Super Sunday meal for all those members who are available. We will meet in the library.
NEW SUNDAY MORNING CLASS
Del Bolin has started a new study in the Sunday morning Adult class. He will be leading the discussion involving the qualities of the Christian life and the Biblical scriptures which apply.
LP RECORDS
Many of you know that in cleaning out Walker Slusher’s house there are many Long Play record albums ranging for Big Bands, Broadway tunes, Symphonies, and classical, as well as some popular songs from decades ago. Some of them are temporarily stored under the pews in the annex. If you enjoy “wax” stop by and pull out a box or two and take a look. Some will be sold to a dealer, and the rest given to thrift stores in the area. ALSO: Walker seemed to collect lamps. If you would like to look and see if you could use one or two, see Keith about going in the house.
In the next week or so the immigration people will come and get what they can use as they settle people in Roanoke who have come to this area and country to start new lives after leaving disrupted countries in the world.

“NEW LIFE” BULLETIN – VOL. 27, NO. 25&26 – CHRISTIAN (?) MACHISMO

A few years ago I wrote an article about some churches which were having stick fighting and other such events to show that Christian men could “man up.”One participant lost an eye, but was fine with that because it proved he was a man.
Recently I read about Christian martial arts. I’m not taking about black belts or other martial arts that teach discipline, as well as self defense. I’m talking about cage fighting for the fun of it. Or should I say the “Christlikeness of it”, according to the leaders of the movement.
Here’s a few quotes from those involved. John Renken, leader of Xtream Ministries near Nashville, prayed with his fighters at a Memphis match and then encouraged them with, “To the head! To the head! Hard punches!” One of his fighters came away with a broken ankle. .
Some events are billed as Fighting Pastors, where pastors (?) from competing groups fight each other. Of course, there are hugs all around after the fight. Well, maybe not hugs, that might seem too girlish.
Out west in Seattle, at the Canyon Creek Church, Brandon Beals, says, “What lead me to find Christ was that Jesus was a fighter.” One of his flock, a Mr Thompson, said, “Once I accepted Christ in my life, I realized that a person can fight for good.” I think Mr Thompson has that “good” in the wrong category. They like to quote where Paul told Timothy to “Fight the good fight.” That shows the depth of their theology.
Tom Skiles of Spirit of Saint Louis Church remembers church as the place “The men fell asleep.” I wonder who is stronger, men who fall asleep in church, or women who don’t? I’ll bet no one fell asleep during the crucifixion of Jesus.
Okey, what is machismo? The definition is “strong or aggressive masculine pride.” So I’m supposed to be proud of something over which I had no control or choice? Am I supposed to believe that by some ordained wonder I was born male rather then female? Is there a term for strong or feminine pride? If there is it is probably unprintable.
So what does it mean to be a man, and a man of God? Of course, there are cultural ideas, most of which are based on primitive views of male superiority. But when it comes to real strength it has nothing to do with muscles. In fact, one proponent said men are acting too much like women. I’m not sure what he meant by that, but I’m sure he wasn’t talking about Rhonda Rousey, who I’m sure could beat most male fighters and could embarrass any Christian male fighter. She’s also a very attractive woman. She’s the blond in the newer Hardies’ commercial. Rhonda will not fight men. They should be thankful.
Research will also find people of real Christlike strength, including a long list of both men and women that a puff of good wind could blow away. I have no idea how Jesus was built, or how strong he was. The nature of his time would make him fit and able to cope with his culture and surroundings. Did those who wrote about him ever make reference to his masculine strength? No. According to Mark, Jesus was so weak after his beating that he couldn’t carry the cross, or crossbeam. Does that mean he was frail? No. It just means he was no Rocky, or perhaps Mel Gibson..
This is not about physical strength. That is an attainment though dedication and hard work. That’s a good thing and the results can be both beneficial and rather amazing, regardless the sport. The question is, does that define the value of the person? The answer to that is no. That’s the rub with “maning up” being equated with physical strength. It, perhaps unintentionally, defines the person’s worth based on physical ability rather than on mental and moral fiber. Can there be both? Of course. But when physical prowess defines worth, where does that leave the rest? If I’m a male member of a cage-fighting church and I have no desire to do that, am I less a man than those who find the need to prove their manhood in so doing?
There is also and underlying, sometimes spoken, elevation of macho-men over those who are not. Comments like James Dobson’s son, who said, “We’ve raised a generation of little boys” is a good example. By the way, if you’ve seen James Dobson, he’s no macho man.
Keith

CONCERNS: Richard Crites is now being cared for at home. Visits are welcome, but call first. Jeff Bland is still healing from knee surgery. Melanie Gentry, Alisa Flora’s sister is critically ill with a yet undiagnosed illness. Betty Voss, Joni Beach’s mother, also her aunt, Pat Voss, as well as her niece, Jamie Cole. Roger Fisher’s brother, Woody, Jim Hunter, Wayne Phlegar, Bill Albert’s son, David. Leena Bolin’s aunt, Lee Nicklas, Kim Hall’s friend, Mary, (MS) Sue Huels, Sandra Anderson, Gil Greenwood, Stephanie Rigney, Deana McRoy, Jenni Cullum, her friend, Sean, Diana Sparrow and Tim Elder.

OUR DAILY BREAD: SEPT. 7-12
Monday: Daniel 5:17-28
Tuesday: Matthew 13:44-54
Wednesday: I Samuel 17:41-54
Thursday: Psalm 70: 1-5
Friday: Matthew 7:13-29
Saturday: Psalm 1:1-15

OUR DAILY BREAD: SEPT. 14-19
Monday: Exodus 3:1-15
Tuesday: Matthew 9:14-34
Wednesday: Ecclesiastes 12:1-14
Thursday: II Corinthians 5:11-21
Friday: II Samuel 11:1-27
Saturday: Psalm 121:1-8

THE BULLETIN
Since we now have a new and updated directory, and because Roanoke mail is going to Greensboro to be sorted and then back to Roanoke for delivery, making it hard to get the bulletin mailed in time locally for it to reach you, as of the next publication, everyone who has e-mail will receive the bulletin by that method. If you would like a hard copy they will be available at the church. Those who do not have e-mail will still receive the bulletin via regular mail, possibly getting it on Saturday. Again, there will always be copies available at the building.
If you have an e-mail address and do not receive the next issue, let Keith know.
THE BAR B QUE
Even though this is being typed before the Labor Day Bar B Q, as always, we can say it was great. The weather forecast looked good and everyone pitched in with good “extras”. Be sure to thank Chef Jeff for getting the meat, and James Downing for being Jeff’s stand-in. Also Holly for cleaning up the patio.
Any leftovers will be enjoyed either on Sunday, or Super Sunday.
We plan on eating around 4 PM, but if you come later there will be plenty/ Also, invite someone, even if you didn’t sign them up.
THE RECORDS
There was an interruption in the progress of cleaning Walker Slusher’s house of the record (LP) collection. That has been resolved. If you would like to look though some of them and are going to be at the Bar-B-Que on Saturday, they are under the pews in the annex. Just slip out a box and look.
THE SIDEWALK
The new entrance at the lower part of the parking lot is one of the nice things we received from the construction of the new sidewalk. It is now open and ready to be used.
OUR ABC KIDS
The letters from the two children we sponsor in Guatemala are on the downstairs bulletin board. Nery Noe and Luis Alexander Perez Nicolas wish us good health, and Luis wants us to know he is an obedient young man. Cute. Stop by and look at them.